
Ideal Family
The conception of family has changed. Ideally a family consist of parents (father and mother) and children. But there are many variation now. Lets take a quick look of that variation. First, what we've already known, single parents.
Wikipedia give a good definition.
single parent (also lone parent and sole parent) is a parent who cares for one or more children without the assistance of another parent in the home. The legal definition of "single parenthood" may vary according to the local laws of different nations or regions. Single parenthood may occur for a variety of reasons. It could be opted for by the parent (as in divorce, adoption, artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, or extramarital pregnancy), or be the result of an unforeseeable occurrence (such as death or abandonment by one parent).
The living and parenting arrangements of single parents are diverse. A number live in households with family or other adults. When parents separate, one party usually parents for the majority of the time but most continue to share parenting to some extent with the other parent
Single parenthood is a stage of life rather than a lifelong family form. Many re-partner and form a stepfamily.
You can also look at the single parents demographic that are also explain there.
Most single parents are female. In the past few years there are more men heading single parent families.
In 2003, 14% of all Australian households were single-parent families. Since 2001, 31% of babies born in Australia were born to unmarried mothers. (Many of these mothers may not be single parents, as they may simply live with their supportive partners without getting formally married.)
In the United Kingdom, there are 1.9 million single parents as of 2005, with 3.1 million children. About 1 out of 4 families with dependent children are single-parent families. According to a survey done by the United Kingdom, 9% of single parents in the UK are fathers, and 86% of single parents are white. UK poverty figures show that 47% of single parent families are below the Government-defined poverty line (after housing costs).
Other variation which I haven't find the statistic yet are guy and lesbi parenting. I heard about it in the seminar I attended a week ago.
This variation off course doesn't fit with biblical teaching. If a cause of single parent parenting is death of mother or father, than one of them decide to be a single parent, than it is right. But, if it is because divorce than it is not right. (I believe that Bible doesn't allow divorce, it is another topic that also will be discuses in different post/article.
In the case of guy or lesbi parenting, I can make a strong statement that it is absolutely wrong. Bible teaches us that God intended couple is man and women not men with men or women with women. Thus the ideal family must be a man with a women with their children.
First Marriage
It is interesting to learn that marriage was initiated by God Himself. Even though there is no strong statement in the Bible that God blessed the first man and woman. But we can refer to the word - choice that is used in Genesis to call Eve before the fall. Eve is called 'his wife.' It suggests that God already blessed them as husband and wife. There was marriage in the Garden of Eden. The very first family was there. The institution of family was started in the very beginning of the world and human race.
Sexuality in Genesis
If there was marriage in the Garden of Eden, than Adam and Eve must had a good consciousness about their sex. They must realized that they had different sex. But if we read the Bible we will find that they felt ashame after the fall. It means before the fall they didn't have the felling. Thus what kind of marriage was that before the fall?
Stephen Sapp quoted by Richard M. Davidson in his article The Theology of Sexuality in the Beginning writes
"if consciousness of sex is a result of the fall that such a position assumes that sexuality itself occasions shame by its very nature, and thus suggest that sexuality was not part of God's intention for human creation." David Continues
, The idea that a consciousness of sex came only after the Fall seems to be largely based on a misunderstanding of the meaning of Gen 3:7 and its relationship to Gen 2:25. It has been argued that since, according to Gen 3:7, Adam and Eve knew that they were naked only after the Fall, then Gen 2:25 must mean that they were not aware of their nakedness (or sexuality) in the beginning.
In Gen 2:25 the word for "naked" is `arum, which elsewhere in Scripture frequently refers to someone not fully clothed or not clothed in the normal manner. Gen 2:25 does not explicitly indicate in what way Adam and Eve were without clothes in the normal sense ("normal" from the post-Fall perspective), but the
semantic range of `arum is consonant with the conclusion toward which parallel creation/Paradise passages point, namely, that Adam and Eve were originally "clothed" with "garments" of light and glory.
If such is the case in Gen 2:25, then the contrast with Gen 3 becomes clear. In Gen 3:7, 10, 11, the Hebrew word for "naked" is `erom, which elsewhere in Scripture always appears in a context of total (and usually shameful) exposure, describing someone "utterly naked" or "bare." As a result of sin, the human pair find themselves "utterly naked," bereft of the garments of light and glory, and they seek to clothe themselves with fig leaves. Even this post-Fall "nakedness" should not, however, be interpreted as causing Adam and Eve to be ashamed of their own bodies before each other. There is no mention of mutual embarrassment
or shame before each other. The context is rather one of fear and dread before God. Adam says to God (3:10), "I heard the sound of thee in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid
myself."
Now I can conclude that, again, since the very beginning of the human race God already design a family which is started by godly marriage in a holy place made by God alone, Garden of Eden.